People with disabilities use sex toys for the same reasons as everyone: for pleasure, variety, sexual experimentation, sex ... But some people with disabilities also use them to help with sexual difficulties or physical, mental or sensory impairments.
Sex is not always that simple for everyone, and it certainly is not like in the movies. But sex can be just as good if the right tools are used. We are talking about sex toys - dildos, vibrators, vibrating eggs, straps ... etc. We have made a selection of the most useful tools.
People with disabilities often use equipment to help with everyday things, such as a grip to hold a cup or cutlery or a transfer bracket to move from a chair to bed, and many other useful aids. Also in the bedroom. Only because you can not do certain things does not mean that you can not enjoy sex.
- Men who can not get an erection can use a strap-on dildo or tap it on their hip so that their partner can sit on it and play with their penis at the same time.
- Men who can not get orgasm, because they eg. spina bifida can use a prostate stimulator for orgasm.
- Women who can not reach between their legs to masturbate can use a lightweight massager that has a long handle to stimulate the clitoris.
- Women with spinal cord injury and others with neurological disorders are not allowed to masturbate naturally, so they need adapted tools for stimulation.
- Blind and visually impaired people can use audio erotica to excite them.
- People who can not move and want to please their partners can hold sex aids - vibrators or electrical stimulation gadgets. People with arthritis or those who have difficulty in finding the right positions for sexual interactions can use certain help aids to make it easier for them.
- People with back injuries use strong vibrators to get orgasms.
- Some people with learning disabilities need tools to support their stimulation to make it easier.
But the most urgent reason why some disabled people need sex toys is that they are unable to masturbate to orgasm, perhaps because they have short arms, their hands get tired and weak, or they can not move their arms.
Women are fortunate that stimulation aids such as the wevibe and wevibe sync can be used without hands.
There are no rules for positioning! Key concepts are comfort, balance, and safety. Experiment with both the 'upper' partner and the 'lower' partner who helps in sexual movement. For the 'bottom' partner, use your cushions behind the lower back and / or knees for support. Using a wedge cushion under the knees of the 'lower' partner you can relieve the spasms, reduce lower back pain and provide easier access to sexual organs.
In a 'spoon' position one partner lies in front of the other, both facing each other in the same direction, on their sides. This position can be useful for people who wear a catheter and have a leg bag. A cushion between a person's legs can ease the hip discomfort and facilitate penetration or sexual acts from behind. Side positions opposite each other can allow both partners to be involved in penetrating or sexual act.
Removable armrests and removable side supports in a wheelchair can be the options for sex. The "upper" partner can look face-to-face or 180 degrees looking away or even to the side for penetration or other intimacy on the partner's lap. The person in the wheelchair can also be penetrated or have oral sex by moving their buttocks to the edge of their chair and kneeling or sitting in front of them. In wheelchairs without removable arms, the 'upper' partner tries to sit on the 'lower' partner looking away and using the armrests for support. Couples prefer to choose a chair without armrests to make positioning easier.
All of this shows that there are still many ways to still enjoy sex and orgasms, even if you have a disability.